As a parent, it can be difficult to discuss divorce with your children. Navigating the legal implications involved can be stressful while simultaneously looking after your children. As such, we believe that it’s a good idea to speak to your children about divorce so that they have a better understanding of what it means, what it involves, and what the future might hold for them.
Every family is different in how they deal with problems. While many of these tips will help most families get through the divorce proceedings, it’s important to remember that certain things might work better for your family. Some children understand things better when it’s explained by a certain parent or when using metaphors, whereas some children that are more mature might find it easier if you answered their questions straight.
So without further ado, here are a couple of ways to help you communicate with your children when discussing divorce.
Explain things in simple terms
It’s extremely important that you start by explaining things in very simple terms. Even if your child is a teenager, they still need to be told things in as few words as possible to ensure that they understand what you’re saying. Things can get complicated when you’re talking about divorce, legal proceedings, and so on.
So whenever possible, try to simplify things and focus more on the outcome that you want for your child. You can give as many explanations as you want for the reasons you’re divorcing, but at the end of the day, what your child finds important is the situation they’ll be in a few months from now.
Let your child share how they feel
Whenever you explain something to your child, give them an opportunity to ask questions and express how they feel about certain things. Don’t overwhelm your child with information at first. Let them speak, give them a bit of time to process things, and don’t forget to answer their questions as clearly as possible. You’ll need to constantly reassure your child that things are going to be alright.
Describe change as a positive thing
A lot of people consider change to be a bad thing. They don’t like change and would much prefer to see things stay the same for a long time. Unfortunately, having this mindset can really limit your child’s development and future opportunities. If possible, try to describe change as being something positive that your child should experience. Explain to them that it’s a new chapter in their lives and that there are new opportunities just waiting for them in the future.
Be with your partner when speaking with your child
While this option isn’t always available, make sure you speak with your child with your partner present to ensure that there is no animosity or separation in how you both communicate with your child. You should both be united with the same goal in mind; to take care of your child.
If you’d like to learn a bit more about divorce proceedings and how to communicate with your child, don’t hesitate to get in touch with us at DJP solicitors for further assistance. Call today on 01224 590053.
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