How to Help Your Adopted Child Adjust to Their New Life

Adopting a child marks the start of an exciting new chapter in your life. While adoption will be a big adjustment for both you and the child, there are several things you can do to make the process run more smoothly. Read on to discover how to help your new child settle in and become well adjusted to their new life.



Create comforting surroundings

It’s a good idea to consider what your new child has been used to. Speaking with foster parents, children’s home staff or birth parents (if appropriate) can help you understand your child’s current routines and what they are accustomed to. Try to duplicate these by continuing familiar traditions and providing your child with their favourite toys and games. This will make your child much more comfortable in their new environment and will ensure the transition process runs smoothly.

Try not to overwhelm your child

While you may be tempted to fill your child’s new rooms with toys, gifts and decorations, this can be very overwhelming - especially for a young child. Instead, you should aim to provide a room that is soothing and not overly bright or cluttered. It can be hard for anyone to settle into and sleep in a new room, so you’ll want to ensure your child feels as relaxed and safe as possible. Remember, you can always add more belongings later.

Go easy on the celebrations

Adopting a child is a joyful experience and it’s natural to want to celebrate with your extended family and close friends. However, it may be wise to wait a couple of weeks. Your child is already adjusting to significant change, and exposure to so many new people could be nerve-wracking and overwhelming. While your loved ones may be eager to meet their new family member, it’s important that nothing is rushed in the adoption process.

Involve your child in family decisions

To help your new child feel included, make sure they are involved in family decisions. This will be especially important for children who come from unstable backgrounds, as they will need to gain a sense of control amid a life that may have been rather turbulent. You could let your child choose a family dinner or suggest a family activity every week - this will make them feel like a valued family member.

Keep communication open

Do your best to keep communication lines open. Talk to your child often and ensure you are present and interact with them. Remember, your child may have a lot of questions - this is a great way to connect and begin engaging in meaningful conversations early on. Ultimately, being responsive to the needs of your child will facilitate the bonding process and help establish lifelong connections.

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